A moment can involve emotion, memory, expectation, context, interpretation, and another point of view—all at once.

Return helps slow those layers down so you can examine them without automatically reacting, blaming, dismissing, or taking on responsibility that is not yours.

It helps you:

Notice 
What am I feeling, reacting to, or trying to understand?

Separate
What happened, what did I interpret, what am I assuming, and what remains unknown?

Check
Am I seeing this fairly? Am I applying the same standard to myself that I am applying to someone else?

Choose
What response reflects what I actually believe, need, or want to build?